A Day in a Donkey’s life

Farmer's DonkeyThere are several versions of this story going around. Here’s my donkey tale.

One day a farmer’s donkey fell into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided to share his problem with his neighbors.

They all gathered around the well and stared at the poor, braying  donkey. One-by-one, the neighbors offered solutions –  some good, some bad –  for getting the animal out. The farmer listened to their ideas, and then choose the one he thought would work the best.

He and his friends formed a water bucket brigade. With each bucket of water they poured into the well, the donkey floated upward until he was able to step out.

The farmer thanked his neighbors and they left with a feeling of good cheer that they had helped save the animal.

MORAL:

Sometimes our troubles seem so deeply buried in a well that we can’t see a solution, but help is within our reach if we just ask.

  • Don’t hide your problems and let them go from bad to worse.
  • Seek help from those around you.
  • Listen to their ideas with an open mind.
  • Decide what’s best for your situation, and then work diligently on the  solution.
  • Let others feel good for offering their advice.

What do you do when life dumps you in a hole? Please leave a comment.

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Thank you,

Connie Taxdal

Stop Life’s Merry-go-round

merry-to-roundI read this post and loved it! I don’t often share the work of others on the blog but this post was definitely “share-worthy”.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. Is there one of these that you do often? Are there several? Let’s let the good things catch up.

Stop spending time with the wrong people.
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Remember, it’s not the people who stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
In life you’ll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
Stop being jealous of others.
Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
Stop letting others bring you down to their level.
Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change their world. So narrow your focus.
Stop holding grudges.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You’ll end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

Connie Taxdal

How do you stop the merry-go-round in your life?

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Originally posted on September 3, 2013 by lesleycarter – Bucket List Publications  – Written by marcandangel

Strengthen Your Marriage

Since I write Romantic Suspense novels, I called ten couples I know and asked them a few simple questions about their marriages. The people’s ages were from twenty-four to eighty-three. Some were newlyweds, some have been married to one another for over fifty years, and two couples have had more than one spouse.

One of the survey questions was how do they keep their marriage strong. Here are a few of the answers I received.

  • “Not a day goes by that we don’t kiss good morning and good night.”
  • “Laughter. We laugh at each other’s funny comments or together at a wacky movie. Laughter binds our souls.”
  •  “We hold hands, hug, and kiss in public. You don’t have to be over-the-top with a public show of affection, but it’s nice to not hide your love.” penguins in love
  • “When one of us is taking a shower, the other will sneak in and then we lather each other with soap.”
  • “Sometimes our connection is no more than a look in the eye, but that look can create a spark that burns hot.”
  • “Whether we need to ask for forgiveness or give thanks, saying it out loud holds a lot of power.”
  • “It’s nice to know your spouse is thinking of you when they call or text to ask how your day is going.”
  • “We have cuddle time. That’s when I cuddle up in the crook of Gary’s shoulder. We talk or quietly hold one another. It’s very soothing and comforting.”
  • “You’re not joined at the hip. Pursue your own hobbies and interests.”
  • “We pray together. When you’re praying for each other, not yourself, you’re speaking from the heart.”

Connie Taxdal

What are some ways you strengthen your marriage? Please leave a comment below.

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Focus Your Relationship

direction signsIs your romance pulled in all directions?

A wise teacher once gave his young protégé a riddle to solve: “You possess a very powerful tool — one that is always with you. You can use this tool at any time to make decisions   more efficiently, to make interactions with others more rewarding and to find more joy in life.”

What is this amazing tool?

Focus – Paying focused attention to one — and only one — thing at a time can yield rich rewards, including decreased anxiety, more deeply satisfying personal interactions, and more joy in life.

You might think you’re saving time by planning what to make for dinner or catching up on news events while your partner talks to you about his or her day, but you’re robbing yourself, and your partner, of an opportunity for deeper connection and intimacy.

Paying focused attention takes practice, but it is a worthwhile skill, and one that is rewarding to hone.

My husband and I have been married since 1971. As newlyweds, we focused on each other, but when our careers advanced, our responsibilities increased, and our daughter’s activities grew, we lost that focus.

We realized midway in our marriage that we missed one another’s undivided attention. From that day on, every evening (a good time for parents is just after the kids go to bed) we stop what we’re doing and tune out all the distractions.

While cuddling in bed, we talk about whatever’s on our mind. We use this time for bonding – not arguing – that’s a rule. Sometimes it takes only five minutes, other times we talk longer.

When you focus on your partner, even for a short period each day, you’ll be amazed how much it will strengthen your relationship.

Please comment below on how you and your partner strengthen your relationship.

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Unrealistic Ways to Enhance Sex

How many times have you read an article on how to enhance sex, only to stop after a few paragraphs because its suggestions were unrealistic?

• Set the mood for romance with scented candles.candle-animated
It was lovely for about five minutes, then my husband’s nose clogged up and I started coughing.

• Ditch that old T-shirt and slip into silk and lace lingerie at bedtime.
Yeah, right. Who can afford a hundred and twenty dollars for a scrap of material?

• Slather your partner with whipped cream and honey and lick it off.
Somehow the plastic I put between us and the mattress, in case we got sloppy, took away from the sexiness.

• Role-play a fantasy. Pretend he’s the bad cop and you’re the call girl.
I suggested this once to my husband.
“Do you know how a call girl acts?” he asked.
“No. Do you?”
When got through arguing, neither of us wanted to have sex.

• Stock a bedside drawer with toys to enjoy.
This idea had potential. My husband was excited the first couple of times we used a toy. After that, he decided to let it do the work.

I don’t know about you, but just give me good, old, down-and-dirty sex.

Connie H. Taxdal

What’s your experience with these methods or others you’ve tried? Please comment below.